If you are in no hurry to become a parent, you are not alone – more and more women postpone having children, rightly assuming that a child will change their life dramatically.
When is the right time to have a child?
You are in your early twenties and in a relationship? From the medical point of view, you are at your fertile peak – or at least should be. There are obviously other considerations, such as your financial position, your career, have you made the step onto the property ladder, all of which have a major impact on whether it is the right time.
The prospect of not owning your own home, not being financially secure, wanting to pursue a career forced the decision to delay having children for now. What next? You are thirty years old and emotionally ready for pregnancy and becoming a mum. Do you have a partner? Or maybe you are waiting for the right one…?
Whether you are twenty, thirty or forty years old – you may start to feel the maternal instinct at any age, also when it, objectively, is not the best time to become a mother. What then? Before your maternal instinct takes complete control, think about what is important to you:
- financial stability?
- happy relationship?
- emotional maturity?
The decision on whether or not to have children is a personal decision of every woman. Therefore, before you decide to become pregnant, make sure that you really want to be a mother. Do not succumb to the pressure of your friends and family and ignore such comments as “Your biological clock is ticking!”. Remember that when you give birth to a child, it will be you that will have to get up every night to feed your baby when your “concerned” aunts and friends will be sleeping soundly.
Is it possible to plan having a child?
Theoretically, each of us may plan for “a child in 10 years”. Unfortunately, it is not as simple as that. Why?
- We cannot be certain that the future will be kind to us as far as all the issues that are important when deciding to have a child (relationship, finance, health, etc.) are concerned.
- Fertility decreases with age. Women over the age of 40 may have serious difficulty becoming pregnant and maintaining a pregnancy.
You cannot plan for every eventuality, but you can protect your future fertility and decide to have eggs frozen and undergo IVF later on down the line. It will give you the chance to start a family when the time is right. You can learn more about egg freezing and storage here.
The freezing of oocytes, i.e. cells from which egg cells develop, is an increasingly popular method of preserving fertility, which is also available at Reproductive Health Group.
The time is right
Many women and couples find that when the right time finally arrives, they struggle to become pregnant. There are countless factors that can cause infertility from ovulation and ovarian reserve in a woman, to sperm or chromosome abnormalities in a man. Experiencing fertility issues can be a distressing and painful experience and it is something that millions of couples will experience. In approximately 1/3rd of fertility cases the issue is a female related one, a 1/3rd relate to the male and the remaining are either a combination of both or unexplained.
Thankfully, with prompt diagnosis, advice and our state of the art technologies, techniques and fertility treatments we can help women and couples achieve their dream.
We provide a full range of fertility investigations for both men and women and believe that every case is unique and that is why detailed assessments and investigations are required so a personalised care plan can be put together to fit your circumstances. In some instances, our investigations may reveal that changes to lifestyle, or a simple procedure may be all that is required to help achieve a successful pregnancy. In other cases, fertility treatments including IVF, ICSI, IMSI among others may be required to successfully conceive.
Whatever the circumstances, our aim is simple, to give our patients the best possible chance of having a baby, with the best care, treatment and ongoing support available.
Pregnancy after the age of 40 – it is possible!
It is possible for women to become pregnant after the age of 40. However, women of that age have a significantly lower chance of conceiving. Therefore, if you have been delaying having children, you may have difficulty becoming pregnant. The good news is that reduced fertility does not necessarily have to prevent you from starting a family. Even if you have already tried other treatment methods or suffer from premature ovarian failure, you still have a chance of becoming a mother.
If your test results show significantly reduced fertility, and you are not prepared for such an eventuality, you may wish to consider using egg cells donated by another woman.
Donated eggs can then be fertilised using sperm provided either by the recipient’s male partner, or by donated sperm and the embryo used in conventional IVF or ICSI procedures.
Ready or not, we can help
Regardless of what stage in life you are at, whether it is or isn’t the ‘right time’ for you to have a child, RHG can support you in achieving your dream of starting a family through our fertility preservation, egg donation and fertility treatment programmes.